The Lord has just told me to blog on this…

I have had a real problem with this…

Because of the lust which has been in my life I’ve really struggled to be exclusive in my relationship with my wife – in my heart…

I haven’t committed adultery practically with anyone – in the physical sense – but in my heart there has been all manner of lust ‘floating around’/’wandering around’ doing whatever it wants to…

Very disconcerting…

The Lord spoke to me a few days back as I was lying in bed trying to go to sleep “Intimacy = Exclusivity” (I guess He knows that I’m into Maths)… 🙂

And the penny dropped…

In marriage as we focus exclusively on the fulfillment of our wife or husband and there is no other focus to ‘fill the void’ which might be in our lives in terms of a ‘longing’ to be fulfilled ourselves – but as we give ourselves exclusively to the one who the Lord has given to us then we begin to experience that intimacy with that one…

The Anointing flows through this…

I am not perfect, I am not claiming to be perfect – I am just a ‘messenger boy’ for the Lord…

I am not blogging these things because I’m some ‘wonderful person’ – I’m not (in my flesh dwells no good thing)…

But I see things and as He tells me to blog them, I blog them…

I’m not saying in blogging this that I’m perfectly practicing what I’m preaching – in no way – I’m just blogging it cos He told me to…

And I know this word will convict me and show me how short of the glory of God – our God is a gracious and free giver – I really am – I can’t love anyone in that free, ‘no-strings-attached’ kind of way – I can’t – but He can as He does it through me – through my new self which wants Him to live through it…

Within marriage, Intimacy = Exclusivity, if you want to get close to your wife allow the Lord to remove lust from you – lust won’t only be towards your wife – it will be towards any random woman who you might come across walking down the street – it can happen at any time and it robs you of your intimacy and exclusivity with your wife…

Your wife will respond to a surrender in your heart to allow the Lord to develop this kind of love toward your wife in your heart…

That is all…

Not a ‘try hard’…

Just a willingness…

This is enough…

This will bring you together…

This will cement your bonds…

If you’re a woman reading this then I believe the same is true in reverse – submit yourself to love your husband – the husband which the Lord has given you – or if He hasn’t yet given you a husband – submit to wait for the husband which He does give you…

This will be impossible for you but it will show you how deep the issue with lust is…

Lust is wanting now what we cannot have now…

It might even be that the Lord has told you something and you’re trying to make it happen – that is still lust…

Gratitude works differently – it can wait for the long term gift – I can’t – I know this – in my flesh – but He can help us to wait for the long term – or long distance – gift – the one that is far away and appears inconceivable at this point in time…

He delights to take us through our deepest fears…

To help us in our inabilities…

To enable us when we are not able…

Even me…

He can even help me…

Love you all,

Andrew