Divorce & Re-marriage…

I’m really “going for it” here…

This is not an easy topic…

But I want to share on this…

I really do…

This is – what I am sharing in this post – my personal conviction before the Lord…

When two people – a man and a woman – being both of sound mind and at an age of understanding – from a free will – both of them – freeing entering into the covenant of marriage – when they do this if either of them were to divorce the other – then neither of them can re-marry while their divorced spouse is still alive (well they can but it is sin before the Lord – it is not pleasing to the Lord – it is not His will for their lives before Him)…

I am not talking about arranged marriages here or marriages where one party is not in their right mind – or is forced to say “I do” under fear – or where one of the parties is not entering into the covenant from a free will…

These ‘covenants’ don’t count with God – they are false agreements – they are not the free coming together of a man and woman in covenant before God…

I am also not talking about sexual intercourse or fornication, i.e. I am not trying to say that if you’ve had sex with someone but not married them that you’d be committing adultery if you then married for the first time someone other than the person who you’ve had sex with – I’m not saying that also…

Sin is sin but it appears to me that it’s better not to marry and live in sin, i.e. commit fornication (I know this sounds strange but bear with me), than it would be to get married and then commit divorce…

If things in your marriage are so bad that you physically can’t live with your partner then the Lord would seem to indicate that if you choose to leave then you would need to stay single or be reconciled to your husband or I guess visa versa for a man being abused by his wife…

Why am I sharing on this?

It’s something that’s been on my mind for awhile now and I feel to ‘speak out’ about it…

There are certain things which you just can’t do (well you can but its not God’s will that you do – the Lord will forgive anything – except denying that the Holy Spirit is the only way that you can live the Christian life – but this is not the point – there comes a time in our relationship with the Lord where we’re not thinking about what we can get away with but are thinking about how we can most please Him – I hope I am transitioning – or about to be transitioning – into that place – this is my desire)…

Marriage is so important because it typifies Christ and the Church – Christ never divorces His Church – He puts up with her – I don’t mean that in a derogatory way but I know of what I speak – He’s had to put up with me… ūüôā

God did divorce the nation of Israel but the nation of Israel (blood only)¬†was not and never will be the Church – there are some from the nation of Israel (by blood)¬†who were divorced nationally who were not divorced spiritually who were part of the Church (spiritually)…

You know what I mean…

He who joins himself to the Lord – the symbol of marriage – is one spirit with Him – impossible to divorce yourself from the Lord…

And He will never divorce Himself from you – He is one spirit with you – spiritual consummation has already taken place – this is why marriage is such an important picture or type or symbol…

Everyone does make mistakes and God does forgive sin…

This is not the issue – the Lord doesn’t want the flow-on effects from divorced people¬†marrying again – that’s it – it’s not a punishment – its a safeguard and a security for sin from being able to get a stranglehold on our society…

If we find ourselves in a divorced position then we are completely forgiven by the Lord as soon as we’ve repented (or accepted His will in it if our partner has initiated it and the Lord has put no guilt on us for it) but we then need to remain in a position of singleness, i.e. not remarrying, and trust the Lord to “sort things out” by either bringing back to us our spouse or even – if all efforts to “bring back” our spouse have failed – in asking the Lord to remove our spouse from this earth – so we can remarry (if this is what is on our hearts – trusting that to be of the Lord)¬†– or to enable us to remain single – be eunuchs for the sake of the¬†Kingdom – for the rest of our lives (if this is what the Lord’s will is for us)¬†– this is very hard but I believe the Lord is able to¬†“come through” for us in whichever situation we find ourselves…

I was talking with my two work colleagues (my two immediate work colleagues) the other day and somehow we got onto divorce and¬†I heard myself say to them, “If I were to divorce all it would show would be that I didn’t have enough patience to work it out” and then I said, “And if I was to start another relationship all that would show would be that I wouldn’t have any assurance that things would be any better”…

They seemed to see the wisdom in this (even though they don’t know the Lord yet)…

I hear a lot about Grace…

I believe in Grace…

I believe God’s Grace covers us when we repent from our sins…

I don’t believe God’s Grace is an¬†excuse to go out and¬†do something which God¬†has specifically said not to do…

God has said not to be unequally yoked with non-believers – but let’s say you do that – become unequally yoked by marrying a non-believer – I don’t believe the Lord then wants you to divorce that unbeliever – I don’t believe He does – I believe He’d want you to repent to Him for marrying the unbeliever and then let 1 Corinthians 7 take its course…

The unbeliever might not want¬†to live with you – the unbeliever might want to divorce you…

If so, then you’re free from the unbeliever – which is a good thing – but then have to remain single until the¬†unbeliever dies – when you are freed from the law of the husband as per Romans¬†7…

The unbeliever may want to live¬†with you and this marriage may have the Lord’s “blessing” in the sense that the Lord makes it easy¬†for you – because you’ve repented – to “get on” with your relationship with Him, i.e. not be hindered by your unbelieving spouse…

Wherever we find ourselves we must trust in the Lord and not take matters into our own hands (well obviously we don’t have to do that but we want to as we are changed more and more and more into His Image – it’s for His and our benefit that we do – we are teaching the world about Him in this – about His relationship with His Church – we are teaching the world about Him – about His Unconditional Love and Faithfulness to His Own – His Bride – His Church – His Love)…

Even those of us who are married to those who know the Lord have plenty of areas where we need not to¬†“take matters into our own hands” – only the Lord can achieve anything of value in our lives and we’ve all got plenty of sin to deal with…

So the forgiveness isn’t the point – the “moving on” and “starting over” is…

Matters must be addressed…

Problems must be resolved…

Issues can’t be¬†“swept under the carpet”…

I know of what I speak…

The Lord has dealt with me on these matters (and still is – He is testing our surrender in all things – all things – nothing is left out – nothing is left behind – He is testing our surrender on all things – wait on the Lord – wait for the Lord – if you wait He will bring about His best for you¬†– He is the God of Miracles – and He will do miracles for you – I know it – I know it – I know it)…

More than you would¬†know…

None of us who find ourselves in these “impossible” positions can help ourselves – only the Lord can help us…

We can’t be patient…

We don’t have self control…

Only the Lord does – as we cry out to Him sharing our hearts with Him – He comes close to us and answers us out of His Heart – through the pain He ministers His Intimacy into our hearts and teaches us about Him…

Which – at the end of the day – is far better than intimacy with another male or female (depending on your gender) human being…

He is “the good bits” in any friendship or relationship we have – “the good bits”… ūüôā

And He is able to hold us – and sort through these “deep desires” within us which “push us” into relationships – relationships which are not healthy or stable – He will “hold us apart” from these relationships until we’re ready to handle them “in Him”… ūüôā

Love you,

Andrew

About andrew james horton

Hi, my name is Andrew James Horton... I am a Kiwi (New Zealander), born in Christchurch (05 September 1971), now in my mid-forties (I feel so old saying that)... I am blessed to be married with five children and six grandchildren... :-) I am at present a Technical Director - Design, Director working in Christchurch, New Zealand... I am passionate about prophetic intercession and about revival both in New Zealand and throughout the world... I am passionate to pray that the Church, the Body of Christ, the Bride of Christ, will be all that He - the Lord Jesus Christ - desires her to be in our generation... I felt that the Lord gave me the name of this blog site, "a house of prayer for the nations - prophetic intercession for worldwide revival" and wanted me to "put it out there" and start recording the prayers which are on my heart to pray in the hope that others would also be encouraged to share the prayers which are on their hearts to pray and that in the unity of the Spirit we could participate together in this activity in different locations around the world as He leads us... If the Lord leads you, let's join in prayer for the Lord's will to be done on earth as it is in heaven in our generation... Love in the Lord, Andrew
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One Response to Divorce & Re-marriage…

  1. I have to share something…

    I believe my personal conviction before the Lord shared above needs to be tweaked…

    He showed me something over the weekend which really took me by surprise…

    I’ll share it briefly…

    When a son or daughter of God marries someone who isn’t a believer and the Holy Spirit is grieved – they feel this grief inside them on their wedding day – then it was the flesh of that son or daughter of God who married that unbeliever (unregenerate person) and not their new self…

    Their new self never married – it is still a virgin in the sight of God…

    I’d never seen this before – I was worshipping the Lord and then in a ‘silence of His Presence’ I saw this – I saw this for someone who I’d been praying for – amazing…

    The Blood covers this…

    When that marriage eventually capitulates – if this is how it turns out – then that one – that believer – that son or daughter in God – whose flesh was crucified with Christ and has already died, “for you died and your life is now hidden with Christ in God” is free – they are not bound – as Paul says – but are called to freedom…

    I’d never seen this…

    Anyone who wants to marry that brother or sister – should – I believe – go to that divorced non-believer – who used to be married to the son or daughter of God – and before agreeing to marry that one – should ask their permission – to make absolutely sure – like the kinsman redeemer picture – that they have no intention or desire to be with or to be reconciled to that believing one…

    If they have no desire and give their ‘OK’ then I believe – and I believe I have the Lord’s wisdom on this – that you are then free – under the Blood – as a new creation in Christ – to marry them – as a virgin – a permanent virgin before the Lord – for their new self cannot sin…

    This is the word Jesus gave to the woman caught in adultery…

    Neither do I condemn you, your sins which are many have been forgiven you, go and sin no more…

    That woman as she was in the presence of Jesus – as she looked into His Eyes – she believed and she was forgiven – she was no longer under the Law and Jesus did not let the Law take its effect over her – He stood as the Lawgiver – for her – He stood for her – He annulled all her sin and the results (death by stoning) of it…

    This is the Grace of God…

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